Seeking advice on relationship with best friend?

Hi, I have been best friends with a woman for a while. We are together all the time and when we are not together we are talking on the phone. I am 34 years old and she is 44. We recently admitted to each other that we had deeper feelings for each other than just friendship and we know we would be great together. One problem she has a boyfriend of 12 years whom she has hated for years but needs to keep around. Let me explain. He rarely works for longer than a month before getting fired. He gets drunk all the time. He does nothing to help her out and he is verbally abussive. She must work 2 jobs to pay bills and rent. One job is overnight so she needs him around to watch their 2 young kids while she works because she can't afford to hire someone or quit her job. I know she is affraid to kick him out for fear of what he might do. Also her 2 older daughters hate this guy and beg me to make her get rid of him and for me to date their mom. I would welcome any advice from anyone.Seeking advice on relationship with best friend?
There's a reason she won't leave him, and its not just the babysitting.. find out what, and then work on it. perhaps fear of retaliation?? get this woman help from a local domestic violence organization..Seeking advice on relationship with best friend?
Firstly, why would she leave her children with a guy who is drunk all the time? thats asking for trouble, but if she has nobody else I can see she has no alternative, but maybe ask her older daughters to look after the younger ones? anyone but a drunk guy who could get violent, and from your post, that sounds possible! You cant make her get rid of him, but you can try and persuade her that she and her children can have a much better life away from him. Let her know your door is always open for a chat and you'll wait for her (if you want to).
Pufff... How she can leave her kids with a man that is drunk all the time!!!





If you really love her, talk with her and try the figure out how both of u can make the things work !!!


She needs to get rid of that man...











Good Luck !
If you are willing to help her and you are really serious about being with her then you need to talk to her and tell her that. She seem to be scared to kick him out because she kind of depends on him to watch the kids. Well would you help her financially? You really need to sit down and tell her how you would help her and proof to her that you are for real. It may take some time for her to kick out the other guy, but if you stick by her side then I am sure she will soon be confident enough to kick him out! There are always restraining orders for the abusive ex boyfriend. ;-) Good luck!
punch that man!.


and do what the kids said:)
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