Need some sincere relationship advice please. Will give best answer nod.?

Ok, my girlfriend told me last week that she needed a ';break';, but not a ';break-up';. Said that we both have things that we need to work on before we see each other again. With me, I need to get out of my mom's house and get my own place (I'm 28). But before anyone says anything, my father died 3 years ago, and I've had to help my mom with all the bills (mortgage, utilities, and hospital bills from my dad before he passed away). I am currently looking at a couple of places and plan on being out within 3 months. My girlfriend said that she needs to get back to her old ';fun'; self. Which I agree. The last year and a half she has been way too needy/possessive, and an emotional wreck who always took her problems out on me. I agree with us taking some time apart, but, I don't want to hurt our relationship by seeing other people. It was brought up (by her) that we might want to see others to make sure that we were each other's one. So, how long before I start to see someone else?Need some sincere relationship advice please. Will give best answer nod.?
that's a tough one!!! first of all, sorry about your dad! if she (or you) is looking for the right time, let me tell you it never gets here. good timing rarely makes an appearance in relationships. from the sounds of it, she has already made her decision, especially if she wants to see other people while you guys are ';taking a break';. if you are with someone and want to be with them in the future, you simply don't want to sleep with and/or date anyone else. i cannot comprehend wanting to date random people when you love someone! does not compute...





could you really put your whole heart into a relationship when you know she's been ';elsewhere';? i would not be able to. and if you can't put your whole heart into it, it is doomed to failure. if you were the one for her and she for you, you would both know that by now. also, needy and possesive are not attractive qualities in any mate. look at what you REALLY want from a mate and see if she is it. if not, trust me, you WILL NOT change her into someone you want to be with!!!





although i don't know the whole situation, i can say that the signs shown here lead directly to splitsville, as they should! why do you want to be with someone who wants to date other people...that is just weird! anyway, you sound like a good guy so find yourself a good girl who does not need you, but wants you!!!





hey, i'm single! ; )Need some sincere relationship advice please. Will give best answer nod.?
How many ways do you put this...





You wont know what you've got until its gone.





Absence makes the heart grow fonder.





Out of sight, out of mind.





Blah blah... all this stuff is probably wants going on through her mind and she is probably frustrated with the domesticated woman she has become (believe me, I've been there), so she is trying to get back to her old self to feel ';fun'; again, ';sexy'; again, and probably most importantly, ';wanted';. She needs an ego boost, and the only people that could give it to her are people who check her out, people who want to be with her, and blah blah.





If she is trying to go on a break, you might as well break up. There is no difference at all. But the most important phrase you both have to remember, is ';if it was meant to be, it will be';. Could be timing is off. But whatever you two decide to do, either see other people, stop seeing each other, or whatever, it will all become clear when you no longer have each other.





good luck.
wat until u r positive that u r broken up cuz u don`t wanna have a new gf and still have her inlove with u................make sure that u kno u want a new gf b4 getting with another girl and breaking both their hearts..........and make sure u r truly in love with the new girl...........................so don`t go breaking ppls hearts cuz u r depressed by ur break up..............so wait a while b4 getting a new gf
Get situated in your new place first and take some time out of the social scene so that you can get some stability in your life. It doesn't sound like she is going to waste much time getting out there if she wants to have fun. So I guess it's really up to you.
Look if your going to see other people it is a break up. How can either of your find yourselfs while dating others. if this is the case why break? You guys need to band together or go your separate ways.
I have felt that way in the relationship I am in, wanting to take a break. Sometimes it because I miss being alone, and need my ';amber time';. And sometimes its because things don't look the way I want my life to be.


So if your question is when do you date? Well, when you know, you know. Sometimes people come into our lives that are unexpected. And sometimes they don't


You'll just have to leave it up to fate, and your gut insticts
first of all you should try to move out of your mothers house. you should maybe consider renting an apartment with a friend of yours so you dont spend to much money. this way you could still help you mom with her bills. about your girlfriend wanting to get back to her ';ffun'; self, when you get back together you should take time like each week of something to go out with your friends. i think that if she said she wants to see other people, then anytime would be okay for you to start seeing other people. i hope i could help.. :]
First of all, sorry to hear about your dad. It seems like you've been through a lot in the past few years and that your life is going through a lot of changes right now again. It's probably really stressful right now, but that's part of the whole transition to adulthood thing - yeah, you thought it only happened when you turned 18, right? It's a process that lasts a long time, for most people, because it takes awhile to physically and psychologically move away from your parents influence and grow into your own. For you, it's a little more obvious because you're still living with your mother and helping her out. I wouldn't consider it a bad thing, by the way. It's just different, by US standards.





You didn't say how long you've been with your girlfriend, but it seems like it's been a very long time since you mentioned that she's been needy the past year and a half. This tells me that you've probably been together a fairly significant amount of time, and that you've probably weathered many emotional milestones together. Therefore, I think that taking time off for you would mean you won't be emotionally available to date very soon. It will likely take some time to work out your feelings about this relationship, and rather than complicate things by involving someone else, take the time for yourself. You don't even have to do so, if you don't want to. I realize that she might date right away, and it might be tempting to do so just because she's doing so, but you have to be strong enough to do things at your own pace.





I do think that living on your own or with a roommate would be a good idea for you. Whether or not your relationship with your girlfriend takes a break or continues on, it's good to have some time where you lived independently and developed your identity as a man on his own. In some cultures, this is not so much of an issue, and men and women live with their parents until they marry, then live with their spouse (and/or family) after that. However, in US culture, men are expected to have a certain independent identity, and a good way to cultivate this is by doing exactly as you are doing.





Good luck to you. I know it will not be easy, but nothing character building ever is. It sounds like you've definitely got the strength and determination to do this, and the self awareness of your own needs to not push yourself to do things ';just because.';
giving each other some space for a while is absolutely necessary. sometimes we immerse ourselves so deep in to a relationship that we start loosing our own self. this a point probably you or your gf are going through.


now your qquestion is how long you should wait before seeing someone else? well to that i will say if you really like your gf and sincerely do not want to loose her, then why u think about seeing someone else? even if she says so, you must do what u want to do. not because she said she wants to see someone else, you will also jump into it. then it will be you also who will jeoperdize the trust and sincereity of any relationship.


give her a break, let her go and watch her. if she does not waste a day to get out and does not come back to you, she was never yours. if she does come back, she will never go back..


if on the other hand you think there is no problem in seeing someone else which i think in a way is a cheating, then go for it. may be you will see things clearly after hanging out with someone else, of what you want in ur life and what r u looking for in your partner..


besides, things dont happen when you plan to.. they just happen.. and you will know it...
I would wait a while before I started to see someone else. It also depends on how you feel about each other. If you are truly in love with her, then I would wait and then if she seem like she wants to keep having her fun, then I would too!!!!