Be who you are. You will not expect to be accepted by the society easily. People will see you as queer, that is definite, but don't force yourself to change in order for the society to accept you. I would say take things as it comes. I too, lives in a country where gays are not accepted in society. I told myself, I will show them that we are no different from anyone because we both loved. I have a few friends know that I'm a bisexual. Well, I do not tell them myself, as in initate the topic, they started it first. They would ask me: '; You have not got any gf yet....as you gay?'; I would smile at them and say I'm a bi. You would be surprise of teir reaction. They are all my good friends now. They have known me long enough to know what my character is. Time tells all. You need not need the whole world to accept you, most impt, you accept yourself. As time goes, your friends who treasure you will accept you too.
I think the hardest part is how to break this news to your family. I would not forget the nevousness I had that time when i confess tis to my parent. I knew this would break their heart, but the last person I wouldn't want to keep in the dark is my parent. They have accept it....I guess. Though I believe they still pinned on the hope that i would get a gf instead (haha).
Bottom line is: Don't brood over it. If you know what you want to be, then be the one whom you want to be. Be true to yourself, and gradually you will find friends who will be true to you. I shared your woes, and I hope to share my joy with you.I'm 18 and I'm gay. What is the best way to come out? Any advice?
I personally just live my life. I do not advertise my orientation, but I do not deny it either. Outside of telling your closest friends and family, is a public proclamation really necessary?
well i live in the uS and my best friend is a lezbian and a very close guy friend of mine is gay... and they both came out by telling me first and then going and telling others that they trusted.. then their families found out and for the most part were ok with it... if you really wish to come out that badly try telling your best friend... thenask them tohelp you explane it to your parents... maybe that would help u in coming out more... im bi and i still haven't came out to my family yet... my friends know and they for the most part are ok with it too.. so just ry letting others know no matter what you will always be you. gay or straight there are always people who love. and god loves you no matter what. so if they try to use that against you tell them that if god hated gays.les. and bi so much then why did he create us? because he did create all of us!!!!
HELLO BROTHER, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH.
I THANK YOU FOR THE DECISION TO STOP BEING GAY.
THIS IS ONE OF THE BEST DECISION U HAVE EVER MADE.
U CAN NOT DO IT BY YRSELF.
IN MY QUEST TO STUDY AND SPEAK MORE ABOUT LESBIANISM AT YOUTH MEETINGS I WAS NEARLY LURED INTO NUDITY. THAT IS A SIN.
I WANT TO TO DISCLOSE THAT TO A FRIEND YOU TRUST.
TONIGHT I WANT TO GO INTO YOUR ROOM PRIVATLY AND TALK TO JESUS. TELL HIM YOU ARE SORRY AND THAT HE SHOULD FORGIVE YOU.
YOU MUST THEN ACCEPT GOD'S FORGIVENESS THRU JESUS. THAT IS IT ALL.
NOW BEGIN TO READ THE BIBLE AND TRUST GOD TO LEAD YOU IN YOUR DAILY WALK.
SOMETIMES THE DEVIL MAY TRY TO MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY AND ACCUSE YOU. BUT FORGET ABOUT AND TRUST GOD FOR YOUR TOTAL DELIVERANCE.
I AM WITH YOU BROTHER.
JESUS STILL LOVES U AND I LOVE YOU.
PLEASE STAY IN TOUCH. I WILLING TO SHARE IN YOUR TOTAL DELIVERANCE AND RESTORATION.
GET A BIBLE BELIEVING CHURCH, WHERE THE BIBLE IS ABLOVE ALL THINGS.
A REPLY FROM YOU WILL BE APPRECIATED.
FREDERICK
If you do come out be prepared for some rejection. It is wrong and horrible but there are people who may be unkind. I kind of like one of the previous responses, don't ';come out'; just live your life if people find out fine, if they don't that is fine too. Do whatever feels right to you. Be strong and believe in yourself!
i have some friends who had been through this so if this helps you should know that there is no easy way to tell someone something but if you have friends like me or family like my friends it is not going to be so hard you might actually be surprised but some of them might know already and don't be afraid because the sooner you start being yourself the better good luck and i hope everything will turn out ok for you .love B
How intolerant is your country? Whatever you do, you should not put yourself at risk of physical harm.
This is indeed a difficult issue. Desiding to finealy be open with your homosexuality. The bestt advise I have is to be open with close freinds and family first. They are usally more understanding and open once it ';Hits'; close to home. Your family may become confused and difficult to live with at first, butr they will learn to assept and will still love you as a son. freinds may leave, and you will feel alone, but you arn't, you will make new freinds, and what kind of freinds were thery if they can't accept who you are.
Society will most likely label you, and you will face hardships, but there is support. You may also find other gay people in your aria and be able to get support from them.
You are making a big desision by coming out in a society where yit's not accepted, and this takes a great deal of courage, more courage in fact then the cowards who refuse to accept you. So take confort in that. You are not alone.
I wish there were web-sites for such issues, places where gay people could go to support and help each other, that didn't trun into a hook up or ';Porn'; site. Homosexuality is a large issue to deal with, but know you are not alone.
I have a great deal of respect for you, as you are making a life changing desicion by telling people this personal and vaunrable part of who you are.
I'm afraid there is no way to make it any easier, it's going to be tought. Just go in fighting and don't get down.
Sit your friends down in small groups or one at a tome and tell them.
world is full of pretty girls. why do you do sex with men?
you just can focus on girls.
you can have good time with girls too.
pray and ask god to help you.
good luck.
A person should not be afraid to come out, but unfortunately, they are. Depending what country you are from, coming out could be a matter of life and death. Sometimes, it is better to keep your mouth closed about your views and in particular, your sexual preference. If you live in a country where you can be executed for coming out, I would keep quiet if I were you.
Good luck in whatever you decide
i'd tell a person you could trust the most who would love/like you no matter what. like your family. and that is tough. if people cant except that your gay then they should just get over it.
good luck=]
you'll find some ideas here
just tell them your computer name that should give it away
Tell people that you have been feeling strange and you went to a doctor and he diagnosed a terminal illness. Then a few days later tell them you have had a second opinion and it ok...it's just that you are gay!
I am joking of course.Just trying to put it into perspective. What I am trying to say is that after you have come out you will wonder why you were so worried. Most countries have support networks. The first step is just doing it ( coming out, that is ).
I know this isn't what you probably want to hear, but its not going to be easy at first. That's how it was for me, it was not tollerated by anyone in my family. But to be honest its gets better. After awhile they just come to terms with it and everything will be fine...just stick it out. I promise.
The best thing to do is be urself and if ppl dont like that screw them.
The best way to come out is to slowly tell your family one by one, but if your completely comfortable and know that you are truly gay then sit your family down and tell them. Also mention that even though your sexual orientation is different that you would still love their support and to continue respecting you for who you are. Remind them that you are still the one they love and that you being gay shouldn't change the way they feel towards you.
Hope this helps and Good Luck!
I think people put too much emphasis on straight and gay. Just be yourself and don't care what people know about you. If you really know that you are gay, then trust me the people who know and love you already know as well. Who cares about the rest.
Good Luck!
The most important thing to do at first is to make sure you have a support system of friends and at least one family member. This will help if things do not go over well. Trust me I know. If you have any problems with people's reactions, feel free to email me and I can give you some detailed answers of what you are or may expect from those people.
I just let my family figure it out on their own and all is well!
you should come and see me in Mobile Alabama
come out at thanksgiving or christmas dinner,, better yet announce it at your next family reunion.. that way u say it once and everyone will know.
migrate to another country when u are older ...
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