I need advice. should I tell my best friend that her boyfriend is a cheater?

I've been best friends with my girl for over four years now. She met her current boyfriend when she was 17 and they've been dating on and off for five years. She just found out that he's married with three children over the winter. Of course, he says they're separated and getting divorced. The problem is that he still lives at home.. he says that he's doing his best to get the kids set up before he moves out. This has been a major source of problems between my friend and I since she found out he was married. She wants to stay with him because he's getting a divorce. Recently, I agreed to hang out with this boyfriend because he's so important to my friend. After we all hung out, he started messaging me. It turns out that he wants to have sex with me.. completely behind my friends back. He said this won't end up getting back to her. I want to tell my friend, but she hasn't seemed to care when I've been upset about this in the past. Advice please???I need advice. should I tell my best friend that her boyfriend is a cheater?
this sounds like a ridiculous situation that the two of you have gotten yourselves into. Don't ever mess with married men, cause you end up having to deal with stuff like this. The man sounds like a creep, and not worth your time, either of you. Tell her, and then encourage her to get rid of him, but not before you let his wife know what he's been doing for the past 5 years. she deserves to know what a loser she married so she can get her life together and move on without him.I need advice. should I tell my best friend that her boyfriend is a cheater?
Show her the messages and let her see the proof. Hopefully she comes to her senses.
show her the text message as proof! you need to sit her down and have a serious conversation with her about this! i'm afraid that's about all you can do though. if she doesn't listen, she's just going to have to find out the hard way and there's really nothing else you can do for her. some women are rediculously blind like that. but hey, as her best friend all you can do is try.
That's tough, because she might think you were flirting with him or something. You should show her though, because she is your friend and as a good friend you need to tell her when she's about to make mistakes. He sounds like a loser, and maybe she won't listen to you and maybe she'll get mad at you... but keep your cool no matter what because she'll probably find out for herself in time, and then she'll realize you were right. Good luck.
No doubt if your true friends tell her! i wouldnt dream of not telling my friend
tell her!
Maybe you should show her the messages. They say love is blind, and obviously it is in her case! He will probably never leave his wife either!
if you were a true friend yes u would tell her!!
She knows he's a stinker but chooses to ignore it. If you want to continue to be her friend , ignore it too. If you say too much she will quit being your friend. It may happen anyway.
Well, I don't know. Sometimes they turn on you because they don't want to believe it. What a mess. Forward his text to her. I think you need to be less sensitive and caring or get a new friend.





Shoot, forward the text to his wife. I think his wife needs to know.
you gotta sit her down and tell her straight out. or she will be totally in for a hard relationship. even if se doesnt believe u at first u at least hav to tell her so he doesnt feel like u were hiding it from her. make her see who this jerk really is. because she deserves not to be hurt.
If shes the kind of friend that wouldnt belive u over a boy then dont but if shes the kind that would belive u over any boy then u should tell her
tell her. you'd want her t otell u if this was happening to u, right? if u wait it could get worse and ur friend will get hurt.
Hunny woah thats a heck of a story. First off your best friend needs to figure out if she wants to stay with him or not. Because if he keeps dragging out his divorce and is willing to cheat on her then thats not good. And yes have her give him some time to figure out his life but not too much.





About the whole thing with him wanting to have sex with you seriously dont do it. Thats in the book of friends to never do anything with your bestfriends boyfriend even if they stay together or are broken up. Its just not right. Dont message him back and if you do say that your not interested and arnt like that [if you are thats your choice] and you feel uncomfortable with the situation with it and think its better if you stop contacting me for a while. Do the right thing. Think before you act.....





Hope this helps out =]
show her the messages...


n yes i wud def tell her....shes ur best fren.....n also try to tell her that she can do wayyyyyyy better than this loser of a bf.....
I say tell her she might be hurt or even mad but she will see in the end but you just be the better friend. I lost my best friend a few months ago because I was dating her lieing cousin and I didnt want to listen so it will always come out but be the good friend and be honest
Your situations tricky because you don鈥檛 want to hurt her or lose her as a friend. I would plan something special like try to get her to spend some time with you and then try to explain to her that you not hating on their relationship try to make it seem that hey he is a good guy but he not what your looking for I would show her the messages try to get him to say. That he wants this to remain between you and him then text him and ask him what if your friend found out. Then set him up and call him in put his *** on speaker phone and tell your friend to be quite. Let him bring up the sexual part. Don鈥檛 make it seem like she is right there because a man sense when they are being set up. So have a normal conversation.
tell her bout it!!!!! how can u hav sex wid sum1 who s tryin 2 cheat on ur best frnd?? blieve me,dun do anythin wrong,u vl regret it,plz tel ur frnd bout it....she needs 2 noe...u hav 2 stop her from spoilin her life...dat guy s very insensitive,n in a relationship dere s nuttin more important dan trust....n dat guy s not trustworthy....plzzzz help ur frnd out of dis!!
Show her the messages if you still have them. And you should let her know anyway, cause if she finds out any other way, she might think you y'all were doing things behind her back.
i personally dont see her as your best friend!sorry.


a best friend is there always and trust without questioning your friendship because a guy?????





to me that's not a mature friendship


she puts her...boyfriend before you??





she dont realize that you want the best for her????





this is a toxic friendship!!!!


get out of that situation


and find a bff that will appreciate you! and believe you
real friends listen to their friends and especially when it's for their own good. but sadly, most girls who are in love often forget everything once they're in the situation.. and some end up regretting after and wished they could have just listened to true friends like you... it's hard coz other people who are with someone tend to trust this certain someone over or instead of her friends.. i just hope your friend will listen to you... coz it's very much for her own good and welfare...


you should save that message of her bf to you and let her read it .. she won't get the chance to argue or deny it since the number is still there... you're a great friend, so i may say.. she's lucky to have you.. tell her about it and if she doesn't listen like what most people do, then she's not worth it... that's just what married men do or say to get in to other women's pants you know.. - that they'll be leaving their wives for you, promise you this and that... and all that stuff. your friend needs to know this and as to how she'll take it, it doesn't matter.. what 's important is that you did your part...if she prefers to be with her bf still or if she won't believe you and still pretend that things are ok, then it;s beyond your control already.what she wants to do with her life is already her concern, not yours. let her learn from her mistakes on her own instead if she doesn't hear what you 're trying to send out to her.(which is the truth)... as ive said, you;ve already done your part as her caring and concerned friend... if she;ll think that you're just making it up so she can leave the guy, then she's one of those hard-headed women who will just end hoping or expecting for nothing more than just being another man's woman... coz other women would think that you're jealous or something... so i hope this is not the case for you.. i hope she will listen... do tell her... good luck and i hope your friend can find someone better for her and may she start a life with a less complicated guy...
Tell her what he has been doing. Save the text messages and show them to her if she doesn't believe you. As for the part about him being married and SAYING that he is going to get divorced, tell her that if he wasn't truthful enough to tell her that he was married that he isn't going to be truthful enough to get a divorce.
This guy is complete and total scum and you definitely need to tell your friend. Even if she gets mad at you it's better than having her realize later and find out you knew all along. If he's text messaging you, you should show her the messages. He hadn't told her he was initially married, he's probably lying about the divorce, and now he's propositioning you for sex, there's nothing good about this guy. She needs a reality check and you need to be the one to tell her.
My advice is that always the best way is the truth. Is worse not telling that, think about the two possibilities. I thought about it and I still choose the truth.
she wont believe you. If you want to take a cance on her getting mad at you then maybe you can show her the messages he sends you. Or make her be with you when he is going to be talking to you on the computer. Ne careful though Love does strange things to people and she may get mad at the wrong person. But if you love your friend enough i guess it would be worth it to spare her feelings in the long run by letting her know now and chancing her getting upset with you. I would take that chance for my best friend besides after a while she will see you did it not to hurt her but to help her.
Definitely tell her. Just what you wrote about him he's just a con artist.
Sounds delicate, but honestly, the best thing you can do for her is be honest to her. Who knows if hes not just wanting to cheat on her with you...? If she disregards your advice, its her problem at that point- you don't have to feel guilty, and she can't blame you for keeping it from her.
First off, just ignore the texts and phone call from this guy. If he cared enough about his current girlfriend (your best friend) he would have told her about this when they got into their relationship.





Second, I think you should tell your friend about this. What if she found out and blamed you for not talking to her about this. You and her could become worst enemies. But just don't bring it out like ';Just to let you know, your boyfriend is cheating on you. He wants to have sex with me'; That would kill her, making her think that you want to be with him. Find the right time, and when you tell her, let her know that you are 100% there for her. After all, you are her best friend.





Best of luck!
she is your best friend and if your a true friend you'll tell her what kind of lying cheating dog her bf is, remeber if hes trying to do it with you then your not the only one im sure hes sleeping with other people too.
You've gotta tell her. She'll be angry, hurt and upset but she's gotta know. You have to be firm and tell her what happened and how appalled you were (right?) This is a big bump in the road, so be prepared for anything. If she doesn't listen, tell her there's nothing more you can do for her. It's up to her from there. Just be there to catch her when she falls. And I'd suggest you stay away from this jerk who obviously doesn't appreciate a woman. Don't fall for any of his bull.





The same thing happened to my best friend. After two long agonizing years, she finally got it that he wasn't worth all the pain and heartache. Now she's doing wonderfully! Trust me, this wasn't a piece of cake, but I cared about her that much. I suffered the battle of trying to make her come to her senses.....we fought a lot, but for the most part I simply gave her time. The important thing is that I never gave up on her